_One always has to
know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the
necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we
have to go through._
_*Closing cycles,
shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to
leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.*_
*Did you lose your
job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’
house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a
sudden?* _*You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.*_
You can tell
yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that
were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like
that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved:
your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is
finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they
will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the
best we can do is to let them really go away.
_*That is why it is
so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots
of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.*_
Everything in this
visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in
our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room
for other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself
from them.
Nobody plays this
life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
_*Do not expect
anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius
to be discovered, your love to be understood.*_
Stop turning on your
emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one
that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning
you, nothing else.
*Nothing is more
dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that
is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off
waiting for the “ideal moment.”*
Before a new chapter
is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed
will never come back.
_Remember that there
was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is
irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be
difficult, but it is very important._
_Closing cycles. Not
because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer
fits your life._
_Shut the door,
change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust._
*Stop being who you
were, and change into who you are.*
